How does the Lord take a man and a women and make them one flesh? Have you ever noticed after years of marriage how a husband and wife often look alike? They know each other,s thoughts before they even speak. How does this amazing mystery develop? I don't know. It just happens.
My husband and I have been a part of this GREAT MYSTERY for 55 years, and more is still being revealed to us. We have our problems, discouragements,and misunderstandings, but the Lord has preserved our covenant of marriage.
We were NOT believers when we were married in 1958. By the grace of God we were born again in 1970 and our whole marriage began to change. We had so much to learn. But the Lord was faithful to bring us year by year into a greater love for each other.
There are many good books written about marriage. But, this one truth that is often quoted at weddings, we have valued the most. It is Ephesians 5:32. "This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you LOVE his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she RESPECTS her husband." This has been the key in our relationship that has turned our heart more and more to each other. Men need to be RESPECTED and women need to be LOVED.
The world has this upside down. It can not possibly understand God's ways, (1Corinthians 2:14, 1John 2:15). The world wants everyone to be equal and fair in their own eyes. Selfishness reigns in the center many marriages, which only leads to failure. But when the wife respects her husband, with a growing sense of gratitude in her heart, her husband will respond in love. The children receive the overflow of their parent's love for each other and are emotionally more mature.
If you are a Christian and believe in holy matrimony between a man and a woman, your marriage is special. You have entered into a holy covenant of marriage with Almighty God. He will keep HIS covenant through the many storms of life, even when you think you have failed. He is faithful when we are faithless. (2Timothy 2:13). His forgiveness will heal many wounds of the heart and His love will restore lost affections.
We would like to recommend to you a great book, which we believe will help you understand more of this great mystery of marriage. It is called "LOVE AND RESPECT" by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. I know you will be blessed.